After first receiving the news that you've been diagnosed with breast cancer, a natural impulse would be: guarding the news like a secret, sharing it with no one. The ladies of the SHARE Breast Cancer Support Group have another way, one that is rich is fulfillment, support, and may carry you towards remission.
Marilyn: How did you handle delivering the news about your cancer to family and friends?
Kelly: The first person that I told was my sister, we have a family history of breast cancer, my mother died of breast cancer, and I actually made sure to have a friend on the phone with me in case she needed to sort of help facilitate the process.
Sheila: When I had to tell my sister that I had breast cancer, the first thing that she said was, "Am I gonna get it!?" And I said, I'm not God, I don't know, I hope not.
Margo: The hardest for me was to tell my children, and I had a daughter who was in elementary school at the time, and a son who was an early teenager, and I live in a community that's like living in a fishbowl, and I was going to go through chemo so I knew that everybody would know what I was going through anyway, and I decided that it was best to be really out there with the news. So, first I told my children, we went out to dinner, and then I called every single one of their friend's parents immediately.
Kelly: You know for a minute I didn't wanna tell people, and I know a lot of people feel like they don't necessarily wanna open up about it, but I actually encourage people to do that, because it was the best part of my experience, the support that I got from family and friends, my sister and my best friend started an e-mail chain so that everybody would know what was going on, and then when I had caught my breath, I took over the e-mail chain, and I gave people updates, and they told me it was invaluable to them, and that they really wanted to know what was going on with me, and then the support that came pouring forth my family and friends was incredible; just came out of the woodwork, and just really helped me through the experience.
Margo: I walked around the house bald, I tried to make it as normal as possible, I educated people in my community in a way because there's so many people out that go through cancer, that go through chemo, and we shouldn't be made to feel like pariahs, and the more that people understand that this is just something that you go through, hopefully you get better, the better this is.
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