Debbie Mandel, a stress management expert, gives advice on making optimism an integral part of your life in reducing stress. But how is it possible to focus on the positives rather than dwelling on the negatives when we deal with stressful situations? Debbie describes different techniques that you should do when you are in stressful situations, but always remember that optimism and a little kindness go a long way.
Debbie: To re-frame negatives into positives takes a lot of practice. That's my specialty, that's how I came about into stress management; I do it automatically. To do it automatically the way I do, start with small things everyday. You go to a store, the sales-person is rude to you; we've all had that experience in New York City. Just try to imagine a fictional scenario, that this sales-person is feeding a whole family and has a sick, elderly parent, and is so tired and over-worked. It's not you, it's her life. Just say, "Oh I'm sorry you're having a hard day," and watch it turn around. Watch that sales-person say to you, "I apologize I didn't' mean it." And I think if you begin in small things like that, you will do it as a reflex action for anything that comes your way.
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